She’s saying, “I don’t.”
A bridesmaid was gobsmacked after her buddy, the bride, requested her to pay a hefty charge to be part of the bridal get together, making the bridesmaid not wish to take part within the wedding ceremony in any respect.
The nameless 24-year-old lady took to Reddit in a since-deleted put up to element her predicament, saying that she was “past excited and honored” to be part of the special occasion for her buddy, Megan.
Then, “issues took a flip.”
“A few weeks after the proposal, Megan despatched me an e mail detailing the ‘bridesmaid package deal,’” the lady wrote on Reddit, Folks reported. “She hooked up a spreadsheet displaying what I would wish to pay for as a way to take part.”
The bills included $500 for the costume, $300 for hair and make-up, $150 minimal for a bridal present and a $100 deposit for the bachelorette get together at a luxurious resort.
“After which, to prime it off, she requested for an additional $50 for ‘miscellaneous bills,’ which I nonetheless can’t determine,” the disgruntled bridesmaid wrote.
When she confronted Meghan concerning the eye-watering prices and expressed her concern that it was “an excessive amount of cash” for her to afford, Meghan claimed it was “the norm.”
“She stated, ‘I’m simply attempting to ensure all the pieces’s good, and these prices are crucial,’” the Redditor wrote. “She even stated, ‘For those who can’t afford to be in my wedding ceremony, I perceive, however I can’t change the plans for everybody else.’”
The dialogue made the bridesmaid really feel “tremendous awkward.”
“I’ve all the time been there for her, however this simply seems like she’s utilizing her wedding ceremony as an excuse to make her company pay for her dream day,” she stated, including that the bride hasn’t spoken to her for the reason that dialog.
“I perceive that weddings could be costly, however charging individuals to be in your wedding ceremony, particularly your greatest buddy, feels unsuitable to me.”
Whereas a few of her pals argued that she ought to simply cough up the money to clean issues over with the bride, others stated she ought to “stand my floor” and refuse to pay.
Clearly torn about what to do, the bridesmaid requested Reddit if she could be within the unsuitable for refusing to attend the nuptials.
“For those who can’t afford it, you possibly can’t afford it. You possibly can merely say, I really like you and thanks for asking me to be in your wedding ceremony however I must decline on account of monetary constraints. I’d nonetheless like to attend and assist you,” one commenter wrote.
“If she is de facto your buddy she is going to perceive, however you might have to let issues occur based mostly on her response.”
One other person referred to as the bride “cash hungry,” whereas another person stated it was “approach an excessive amount of to ask from a buddy.”
“Being a bridesmaid isn’t a subscription service,” one individual chimed in. “If she needs a fundraiser, she ought to begin a GoFundMe, not cost admission to her wedding ceremony get together.”
“If she’s actually your bff she’d perceive that what she’s asking of you & the remainder of the bridal get together is an excessive amount of,” commented one other who referred to as Meghan a “bridezilla.”
“She’s asking you & everybody else to pay roughly $1,100 to be in her wedding ceremony. That’s not a buddy.”
